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“Natasha and I met at a club where she was relaxing with her friends. I didn’t think that such an acquaintance could lead to a serious relationship, but I turned out to be wrong. We dated for 2 weeks, and then she moved in with me. Natasha is a very beautiful girl. And he loves to use it. She always had a lot of admirers, and already in the first month of our life together, she began to retire to the next room and chat with who knows who, and giggle. In groups, she flirted with everyone - including my close friends, who were put off by this behavior.
I tried very hard to tie her to me - I looked after her as best I could, gave her gifts, took her on vacation. I spent a lot of money on Natasha’s whims. I loved pampering her, she reacted so sweetly and directly to another gift...
My friends thought she was just taking advantage of me. Everyone wanted to open my eyes, but I preferred not to trust anyone, not to see the truth. I thought, I’ll do something else for her, I’ll buy something else, I’ll tell her, I’ll make it, I’ll cook it... and then everything will be different, she’ll stop flirting with everyone, disappearing in the evenings, chatting with strange people in the next room. Of course, nothing has changed. Only suddenly Natasha got tired of everything for some reason, and she left me.
That's when it all started. I was going crazy. I tried not to call her, but still dialed the number. And then he reset it. Sometimes I called her and remained silent on the phone until some guy called back and began to threaten me that if I did this again, he would kill me. I wasn’t afraid, but my pride, of course, suffered.
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I erased her number and found it out again - I ran to the mobile operator’s office for printouts. They already greeted me by name. I forbade myself to think about her, but I knew literally everything - who she was dating, what kind of fans she had. I listened to all the gossip I could get my hands on and followed her page on the social network.
Other girls didn't interest me at all. I didn’t date anyone, except that I slept with another unfamiliar friend. Good, smart, beautiful girls fell in love with me, but I could not build a relationship. I didn't need it. I made plans for Natasha’s return, but tried not to act in this direction.
I started working a lot. I wanted to be the person Natasha herself would run after. Six months later, I began to earn almost twice as much as before, and thought about ways to make Natasha know about my success. I thought - I’ll get up again, work some more, and make an appointment with her. So I moved forward until I simply stopped sleeping. I worked around the clock. The weekends were always jam-packed with meetings—I couldn’t stay in an empty apartment where I saw Natasha’s forgotten things. By the way, until recently I had them lying around - everything was in its place.
Then I realized that this was not normal. “I got rid of addiction” in a variety of ways. I tried to surround myself with female friends in order to fall in love with another. This has not happened yet, but time has done its job. I’ve been “clean” for 3 months now.
The first month I was depressed. I couldn’t finish anything – I didn’t even finish watching the films. Leaving the cinema. I couldn’t finish reading a chapter in the book, although I used to read it avidly. I'm literally sick of everything. I wasn’t even irritated by the rustling outside the window, into the light. I couldn't be in a well-lit room at all.
But one circumstance helped me overcome my addiction - I found out that Natasha was leaving the country. Then it dawned on me that we would not see her again. At least in the near future. That she won’t meet me by chance on the street, that I won’t see her in some favorite bar, that she won’t know anything at all about my successes.
It is always important for a woman to determine whether a man really loves her. The further development of relationships and the woman’s behavior depends on this.
If she is confident in a man's love, she feels happy. If a woman is not sure of this, then she will inevitably experience constant stress.
How to understand the psychology of a man in love
Manifestations of love between men and women differ significantly. For example, to be sure that they are loved, women need to regularly hear confessions from their chosen one. Men often do not repeat the words they once said.
A man chooses his love object and proves his feelings with actions. Experts also distinguish five love languages: physical, auditory, gifts, time and service. Other experts emphasize that men do not tend to voice their feelings and emotions, but they will always listen to your wishes. In any case, a woman needs to learn to understand exactly how a man expresses his love.
How to understand a man's love through touch
Touching is the easiest way for a man to express his love. This method does not require effort or expense, but touch is a very “talking” sign of love in a woman’s eyes. A man who loves you will regularly touch your hands, hair, neck. These gestures are natural for a loving man. He will touch you not only when politeness or circumstances require it.
How to understand a man's love by hugs
The hugs of a loving man are never careless. Men hug their chosen one with trepidation and love. In the arms of a loving man you should feel comfortable and warm.
Through hugs, men sometimes convey feelings that they cannot express in words. Listen to how you feel when a man hugs you.
A hug is a manifestation of care for you, your feminine essence and a sense of security. A mature man takes relationships seriously and understands that hugging is a reason for a woman to assume that she is claiming to be the only one.
How to understand that a man is suffering from love
A man can suffer from love in two cases: when he resists it and when he feels that you are not revealing yourself to him.
In the first case, the man must decide on the further development of the relationship, and you can only behave befitting a self-respecting woman: always be irresistible and affectionate, but do not let the man get too close to you until he makes you understand that his decision to be with you.
In the second case, the man’s suffering will be noticeable at first glance: he will look after you and woo you, but with your cold attitude the man will be drooping and, perhaps, even irritated. Anger is another manifestation of suffering.
How to understand a man is experiencing love or passion
You can understand that a man is deeply devoted to you and feels love for you by two main signs.
His feelings are always reflected in his behavior. If a man assures you of his love, but at the same time you do not feel his help and care, then you should think about the veracity of his words.
A loving man will never allow you to doubt him. He will not give you reasons to be jealous, he will always be honest with you. Ask yourself the question “What does he do for me?”
A loving man will always share everything he has with you.
A man is always ready to share his resources with the woman he loves. Moreover, we are talking here not only about the material component. A man's resources are his time, energy, sense of humor, creativity, friends, social connections, achievements.
A loving man will regularly invite you to spend time with his friends, make you the main guest of his home and give you the right to dispose of everything that is in it.
At the same time, admiration for you is one of the signs of mature love. A loving man understands the value of your relationship. He doesn't forget to highlight your strengths and thank you for your attention and efforts.
Ask yourself questions: “How does he behave with me?”, “Does he come to the rescue when I need it?”, “Is he ready to invest effort and material resources in the development of our relationship?”
Many women don't know how to find out if a man loves them.
And if experienced young ladies who have been through a lot already know at least the basic signs of true male love, then young girls and girls inexperienced in matters of love have no idea how to recognize a man’s love, how to distinguish a real feeling from a beautiful lie, they have not yet learned to separate the grains from the chaff.
In order to come to the conclusion that a man loves you, it is enough to have only the overwhelming majority of the signs of male love given here in his words and actions. Well, if male behavior does not correspond to most of the signs, it means that most likely (but again - not a fact, but very, very likely) the man does not really love you, but is only playing love cat and mouse, and in this In this case, the cat is he, and you are assigned the role of a gray and suffering mouse.
Real signs of male love. If a man loves, then...
If a man loves a woman, then he never humiliates her.
If a man loves, then a girl doesn’t need to win his love, respect, she doesn’t need to prove absolutely anything - all the evidence already lives in his heart and you can’t burn it out with hot metal.
If a man experiences true love for a woman, and does not suffer himself and does not torment his beloved with neurotic illusions, then he will never hit her under any pretext: he does not hit her, which means he loves her. And this applies not only to physical, but also to moral, mental, and psychological blows. A loving man does not wound his lady with a dagger in the very heart - he leaves it for her and his enemies.
A loving man always wants a child from the woman he loves.
If a man truly loves, and does not adore himself in his love for a woman, he will take off the last thing from himself, sell his beloved car, work three jobs from dawn to dusk, but will make sure that his beloved is happy and opportunity did not need anything.
If a man loves a woman, then he makes many sacrifices for her sake - from refusing to be friends with certain people to agreeing to spend the entire weekend with his dearest and beloved wife on a tiring run through shopping centers.
If real love lives in a man’s heart, then a man forgives his chosen one for any shortcomings, regardless of the degree of their number, significance and originality.
If a man loves a woman, he calls her to marry, he wants her to become his official, legal wife, to be together in sorrow and in joy.
If a man really loves a woman, then he strives to spend ALL his free time with her.
When a man feels love for a certain woman, he is not afraid to humiliate himself, to look funny in the eyes of his beloved and the people around him, he is ready to do anything to achieve her reciprocity.
If a man loves, he calls first, and does not harass his beloved by not communicating with her for days.
A loving man does not show off in front of his beloved - next to her he is more humble than the humblest lamb.
It is difficult to say why a particular man loves a particular woman, but usually this love is based on his love for his mother, if this is true love, or on the unavailability of a certain girl for him, if this is not real love, but only a neurotic dependence, called not inherent in her feeling of love.
If a man loves, he is ready to wait at least a year for the first intimacy with his beloved - as long as she is nearby, in his life, and does not reject his advances.
When a man loves, he often gives a woman small or large gifts and gifts - depending on the level of his material income and social status.
If a guy loves, he will spend his only 100 rubles, but he will be perverted and take the girl to a cafe, wanting to surprise her, please her and please her.
When love lives in a man’s heart, it doesn’t stare around at other people’s women in search of new love adventures - he already has everything and doesn’t need anyone else, no one’s size ten tits, and no one’s oversized butts a la Jennifer Popes.
If a man loves, for the sake of his beloved he will move mountains, make a career, open a business, and become famous throughout the world.
When a man loves, he says tender words to his beloved, even if he doesn’t know how. Or, at least, he tries to do this, learns the art of beautiful words and compliments, expresses his feelings, if not with words, then with gestures, actions, gifts, help and support.
A woman can ALWAYS rely on a truly loving man - without exceptions or reservations.
In any difficult or dubious situation, a truly loving man will ALWAYS take the side of his beloved, even if she is wrong.
If a man’s love for a woman is real, there is no calculation and conditions in it according to the principle “If you don’t do this or that, I will stop loving you,” and according to any other principles, true love also completely lacks calculation and conditions, unless they are aimed at making the woman you love even happier.
A man's real love does not stoop to blackmail and bribes.
If a successful man loves a woman, then he does not buy her mutual love, but only tries to make his beloved happy.
If a man loves his woman, he will not humiliate, insult, or scold her in the presence of other people.
When a man loves, he doesn’t care whether his beloved is a bitch or not.
If a man loves and does not suffer from a passionate neurotic, but temporary, mental-heart disorder-insanity, he will never cheat on the woman he loves under any pretext: if necessary, he will fight off fans, refuse 1000 and 1 lovely chick, but will remain faithful for the beloved in all her virgin chastity.
If a man loves, he is not interested in his wife's friends, even if they flirt with him.
A sure sign: if a man loves you, expect touching SMS from him.
A sure sign: if a man loves, he will take on some of the responsibilities around the house, including sometimes washing the dishes at the request of his beloved or even without her, sometimes he will clean the house himself, take out the trash, and do shopping.
A sure sign: if a man feels genuine love for a woman, he will never be embarrassed by her, even if she talks complete nonsense in public.
If a man loves a woman, he will earn money in one way or another, work, look for an opportunity to provide his beloved with everything she needs, and will never calmly and shamelessly sit on her neck and support.
When a man loves, he does not hesitate to appear with his woman in public, openly go with her to the movies, restaurants, official events, take her to his home, introduce her to her mother, to his friends... He is not shy and does not look for stupid excuses.
If a man loves, then he loves not with his eyes, but with his heart and with all his soul, so the appearance of his beloved is not really important to him - in his heart she will always be the most beautiful and sexy, wonderful lady in the world. Even though she is now running around the house in a cucumber mask and a greasy robe, she is still his beloved woman.
If a man loves, he will never jokingly tell her that “You are the only one - you were, you are and you don’t need to eat anymore.”
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It is always important for a woman to determine whether a man really loves her. The further development of relationships and the woman’s behavior depends on this.
If she is confident in a man's love, she feels happy. If a woman is not sure of this, then she will inevitably experience constant stress.
How to understand the psychology of a man in love
Manifestations of love between men and women differ significantly. For example, to be sure that they are loved, women need to regularly hear confessions from their chosen one. Men often do not repeat the words they once said.
A man chooses his love object and proves his feelings with actions. Experts also distinguish five love languages: physical, auditory, gifts, time and service. Other experts emphasize that men do not tend to voice their feelings and emotions, but they will always listen to your wishes. In any case, a woman needs to learn to understand exactly how a man expresses his love.
How to understand a man's love through touch
Touching is the easiest way for a man to express his love. This method does not require effort or expense, but touch is a very “talking” sign of love in a woman’s eyes. A man who loves you will regularly touch your hands, hair, neck. These gestures are natural for a loving man. He will touch you not only when politeness or circumstances require it.
How to understand a man's love by hugs
The hugs of a loving man are never careless. Men hug their chosen one with trepidation and love. In the arms of a loving man you should feel comfortable and warm.
Through hugs, men sometimes convey feelings that they cannot express in words. Listen to how you feel when a man hugs you.
A hug is a manifestation of care for you, your feminine essence and a sense of security. A mature man takes relationships seriously and understands that hugging is a reason for a woman to assume that she is claiming to be the only one.
How to understand that a man is suffering from love
A man can suffer from love in two cases: when he resists it and when he feels that you are not revealing yourself to him.
In the first case, the man must decide on the further development of the relationship, and you can only behave befitting a self-respecting woman: always be irresistible and affectionate, but do not let the man get too close to you until he makes you understand that his decision to be with you.
In the second case, the man’s suffering will be noticeable at first glance: he will look after you and woo you, but with your cold attitude the man will be drooping and, perhaps, even irritated. Anger is another manifestation of suffering.
How to understand a man is experiencing love or passion
You can understand that a man is deeply devoted to you and feels love for you by two main signs.
His feelings are always reflected in his behavior. If a man assures you of his love, but at the same time you do not feel his help and care, then you should think about the veracity of his words.
A loving man will never allow you to doubt him. He will not give you reasons to be jealous, he will always be honest with you. Ask yourself the question “What does he do for me?”
A loving man will always share everything he has with you.
A man is always ready to share his resources with the woman he loves. Moreover, we are talking here not only about the material component. A man's resources are his time, energy, sense of humor, creativity, friends, social connections, achievements.
A loving man will regularly invite you to spend time with his friends, make you the main guest of his home and give you the right to dispose of everything that is in it.
At the same time, admiration for you is one of the signs of mature love. A loving man understands the value of your relationship. He doesn't forget to highlight your strengths and thank you for your attention and efforts.
Ask yourself questions: “How does he behave with me?”, “Does he come to the rescue when I need it?”, “Is he ready to invest effort and material resources in the development of our relationship?”
Love is a completely unpredictable feeling that is not regulated by any rules. Moreover, the behavior and actions of a man in love can sometimes be very difficult to explain.
Photo gallery: Behavior and actions of a man in love
What can be said for sure is that the behavior and actions of a man in love are significantly different from the behavior of men and boys who are indifferent to this bright feeling.
There are some behavioral indicators of a man in love. For example, trembling in the body when he sees his object of adoration. This trembling cannot be overcome. In addition, the lover’s “burning” eyes give him away. It is the sparkle in the eyes that indicates that a person is currently experiencing the happiest moments of his life. Sometimes the behavior and actions of a person in love is characterized by a running and downcast gaze. This is explained by the fact that a man suffers from unrequited love.
A man in love is literally exploding from the inside with the most incredible feelings.
Some even experience real creative inspiration. If he had not previously been observed writing poetry or singing songs, now he literally gushes with love odes or plays the guitar for his beloved every day. And it’s not scary that most often his poems don’t rhyme or the song leaves much to be desired. The main thing is that a man does everything diligently and with soul.
In addition to behavior, the actions of a man in love change radically. Now he imitates his beloved in everything. If a girl loves watching TV series, then the guy forces himself to sit and watch these films with his girlfriend. If he loves cosmetics and often puts on makeup, then a man, in order to gain the favor of his beloved, gives her various cosmetic items.
How can a man in love behave? He may not sleep at night, dreaming of his beloved and reciprocity. Of course, falling in love is a pleasant feeling. However, persistent insomnia is the result of fatigue and sleepiness during the day. A lover is ready to do anything for his beloved girl. He wants to spend as much time as possible with his girlfriend, and not with friends. His friends start teasing him.
A man in love begins to call all women by only one name - his beloved.
Of course, women and girls will certainly be angry with him, but he doesn’t care about that. In the mornings you can see him “flying” on the wings of love to work or study. He enjoys every little thing and smiles at everyone. He tries to demonstrate all his positive qualities and show his abilities in order to surprise his beloved. A man in love does the most incredible things, for example, writes the name of his girlfriend and declarations of love on the asphalt in huge letters. If financial capabilities allow, a man in love can easily give his beloved the most expensive car or an amazing trip to Bali. You can get a tattoo on your chest with your loved one's name.
There are many signs that indicate a man is in love.
The first and main such sign is a man’s sexual attraction to a specific object. This is considered the first sign that shows a man’s sympathy for a girl. At first the man shows only sympathy, followed by love. In addition to sympathy, a man in love feels spiritual closeness with his partner. He likes to spend more time with his girlfriend. Loves to talk to her and touch her. Shows tenderness and does not hide his personal life. These signs indicate that this girl is not just his mistress, but a very dear person to him. By nature, men carefully protect their personal lives from strangers and do not allow interference. However, if he is in love, then he himself begins to talk about his love and gradually reveals the secrets of his own personal life.
If the beloved girl or woman asks, then a man in love can give up any of his habits, for example, give up playing poker with the guys every Friday.
Another sign that a man is in love is a manifestation of tenderness and desire to take care of his beloved. However, a man must be prepared for the fact that his tenderness and care will not be reciprocated. If a man really loves a woman, then he will not allow his beloved to suffer and cry because of his actions and deeds. A lover cannot intentionally offend his girlfriend. Although minor conflicts are not excluded in the relationship between the two. This is common to all people in love. Women should be careful, if a man is rude in a relationship or commits betrayal, this is proof that he is not at all in love, as he claims. In such cases, girls should think about how to build a future together. However, such relationships do not promise anything good.
You cannot constantly quarrel if people in love want to preserve their love. A man in love reacts only in the first stages of a relationship to a woman’s tears. Frequent hysterics tire men, he may even decide to leave his beloved woman. It is important to understand that you cannot evaluate a man in love in the first days of a love relationship. Love relationships develop and move from one stage to another. The lovers will get to know each other day after day and get used to the changes. Love relationships are not just about romance.
Is it possible to understand whether a man loves a woman or not? Men and women are built differently. It’s easier for a woman to say “I love you!” "than a man. Such recognition is a very serious act for a man. A man who openly admits this is already trying on the role of a dependent person. While women can calmly accept their addiction, men begin to panic. The more persistently his partner puts pressure on him, the more he begins to panic. That is why even the most loving man is in no hurry to confess his love and remains silent. To determine whether a man is in love, you just need to look closely at him.
